No matter how old you are, how long you’ve been single or how many times you’ve had your heart broken, there is always a chance that Mr. or Mrs. Oh-So Right is waiting just around the corner. On Tuesday, Reddit user Throwaway_723 asked – “People who were still single into their late 30s or 40s, did you eventually find love?” Below are 13 hopeful stories to remind you that it’s never, ever too late for love.
1. “I was 39 when I met the lady who soon became my wife. We’re happily married 17 years now. So sure, have some hope. Good things happen now and then.”
2. “I am 37 and my fiance is 36. We’ll be getting married in December. I had given up hope on getting married, but now I know I was waiting for the right person to come along.”
3. “37 years old. male. In the last two years I lost my dad, my dog, and developed a bit of a problem with depression. I completely gave up on the prospect of falling in love. On a whim got on OKCupid. Proposing this weekend to the woman of my dreams.
edit: A few people have been very appreciative of this comment and I want to show you that I am being truthful. When it happens, I will post pictures of the ring on her hand. It may not happen this weekend. I have some plans but I want it to be perfect so if it doesn’t pan out or feels too contrived, I may wait. But…it is going to happen. She is amazing and I want the moment to be perfect for US. OP will provide.
edit 2: we were married on september 3rd. we are very happy. love can be found.”
4. “At 34 I went to an old friends wedding. The brides sister was the girl who I was madly in love with in my 20’s, but was always too shy to tell her. She was incredibly sweet and insanely beautiful, and way out of my league. So…after a glass or two of liquid courage, near the end of the night, I jokingly told her how in love I was with her back then. She then punches me in the arm and told me she was also crazy in love with me back then, but was also too shy. She said she had pages and pages written about me in her old diary, and she still had a photo of us together that someone had taken at a party. Amazed, I then told I had a copy of the same photo and had absolutely treasured it all these years. We both had teary eyes at that point, so I got down on one knee and asked her to marry me. She said yes. I kissed her for the first time right then. It was one of those amazing kisses where you forget where you are, until you open your eyes and look around. We moved in together the next week and were married the following year.
Its been 8 years and we still hold hands when we watch TV.
In case anyone’s interested, about a year after we were married, we lied our faces off to get on a TV show we loved about newlyweds who were having “problems” called Newlywed Nearly Dead.. cuz we thought it would be funny.
It gives you a good idea how much we love each other..”
5. “Met online playing WoW, physically met in 2006 (flew out to meet her), she moved in with me in 2008 (moved from Canada to the US), and married her in 2010. I was 38 at the time, she was 34. Kiddo a year later, and another one coming in 2 months (gulp!)”
6. “I was 37 and engaged to someone I’d been dating for nearly a decade when we had an epiphany that a marriage wouldn’t make it. I handed back the ring and resigned myself to start buying cats. Instead, one of my best friends, a guy I’d spent years laughing with and acting as “the best wing-person he’d ever had” stepped up and confessed he’d been waiting for my former fiancé to drop the ball. We’ve been married for more than a decade now, have two awesome kids (which I had at ages 38 and 41) and are crazy happy. We both traveled, worked, lived, loved, had our crazy youth – and now are thriving peacefully. For the most part it really feels like we know what we’re doing; there is deep friendship, zero drama, we love being together and are certain we’re right for each other. He’s my best friend and a true partner. Could I have said that had he and I married in our 20s? Unlikely. It can definitely happen. Hell, it can even be wonderful!”
7. “My husband was 41 when we got married last year (I’m 27). The last time he dated a girl was in 1995. He expected by the late 00’s that he would probably be single for the long haul.
We first met as co-workers in 2010 and became instant friends. A couple of months later, we started hanging out together outside of work. In 2011, we both moved to different jobs six weeks apart that happened to be two blocks apart, so we still met up for lunch everyday. In 2012, we started dating and within three months realized that this was the real deal. By 2013 we were married.”
8. “I’m super late to this, but I’ll throw my two cents in.
My mom/dad met when they were 42/46, in a community theatre type production. They got married, and a year later almost to the date, they had me. I’m now 20, and they’re still together. So, worked out pretty well I’d say.”
9. “I met my husband in my mid-thirties, got married in my late-ish thirties. We’ve been together for 11 years, married for 9. 1 kid. I had definitely resigned myself to a solo life, and had already begun living that way – very independent and pretty happy that way. Of course, just when I got in that groove, that’s when everything changed. I really think there’s something to that: when you stop looking, wanting, or whatever, and instead focus on the here and now and how to make it enjoyable, that’s when the person shows up. Happens over and over.”
10. “Husband and I met when I was 35 and he was 42 (we’d both had our birthdays that year). We got married when I was 36 and he was 44 (he’d had his birthday for that year, I hadn’t). We have been married 7½ years and have a 5½ year old son (and a dog and 2 cats and some fish).
Neither of us had been married before; both of us had years of living alone and being set in our ways. Big adjustment that first year. We have a pretty boring life right now, but we’re happy with it. We have a nice little family, a church we like, great neighbors and friends. As a bonus, being a bit further along in life has put us in a better position financially: student loans are paid off, house and vehicles are paid off, etc.
Husband has wished aloud that we had been introduced ten years earlier (could have happened – we were introduced by one of my ex-roommates, and she had tried to get us together years before). I don’t know that we would have been compatible then – he had a serious period of sowing-wild-oats in his 20s and early 30s, and I’ve never had any patience for the kind of partying he was doing.”
11. “At 47, I found my wife (or she found me)
For many years, I never could figure out how to play the “find a partner” game
I have no social skills and worked for years in a nearly 100% male dominated profession
I don’t dance and don’t enjoy bars
I tried several dating services, some of them very expensive..no luck
I have no idea how I got so lucky..my wife is wonderful!
Happy together for 14 years and counting!”
12. “My wife and I met 20 years ago. We dated and lived together for 9 years then broke up for about 9 years. We broke up because I had a demanding job that took up a lot of my time. She often felt neglected because i was never home. She would pick fights for the attention and eventually i got tired of it and we broke up. She ended up moving 9 hrs away to a small country town in middle of Fla. During that time we talked occasionally and considered ourselves friends. Although I dated other women I always knew that I would never find someone that I was more compatible with than her. After changing careers and having more time to reflect i came to the realization that at 41 years of age, i did not want to live my life with regret. I did not want to look back and wonder “what if”. So about 2 years ago I professed my continued love for her and desire to give us another try. We got married on 11-12-13. And everyday that passes we are happier with each other than the day before. To answer OP’s question; yes you can find love in your 30’s or 40’s. Don’t ever give up on finding love and happiness and don’t be afraid to take a chance.”
13. “Found my love / wife at age 32. Married now with twin children and her girl from a previous marriage.
IMO, getting married in your 20’s should be the exception. 20’s should be for full exploration of …well everything that you can no longer do once you’re married!”